As the Buddhist teachings say, “to live you must experience suffering.” Throughout life, it’s natural to endure sickness, injury, tiredness, and old age. However, when we look at our emotional suffering, such as loneliness, doubt, frustration, fear, embarrassment, anger, jealousy, disappointment, etc., these feelings are more difficult to accept. When we feel upset we often get impatient and want to rid ourselves of these unpleasant feelings.
Many personal troubles involve being preoccupied with wanting something different.
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People say quality moments are hard to find. We spend time working and undertaking daily responsibilities. And we also use up moments drawing our own conclusions or creating a story of judgment about what we are doing, who we are with and the emotions that we have. What we neglect to realize is that each moment we spend is a quality moment.
Imagine spending more time capturing who we are in any particular moment without categorizing it or wanting to improve or edit it. Imagine just being with whatever we are feeling in that moment without critiquing it or doubting it. Imagine trusting the process of life and recognizing that every moment of its unfolding is beautiful and perfect in its own way.
“Sometimes we like what we’re feeling and then suddenly we don’t like what we’re feeling. And then we like it again, and then we don’t like it again.” It’s fine for it to be like that. The problem is we become accustomed to doubting, negating, or evaluating our moments and not seeing the beauty in them.
Often our fleeting feelings are just as irrelevant as our momentary thoughts. We don’t need to get hooked into every thought or feeling that we have. They just are.
Moods come and go. Some days are cloudy or even rainy, while other days are sunny. Some days we wake up with a headache or a heavy feeling in our heart. But then there are other days when we feel everything is just right, when there is a certain lightness to the moment. There are moments when we smile. And then there are moments when it feels as if everything has all come together.
So let’s begin to have an appreciation for where we are in each moment and an acceptance for what is. And let’s not get caught in a flood of judgment. To accept is to say ‘yes’ to life in its wholeness. To accept is to have the wisdom to experience what is happening in the moment and to believe that it doesn’t have to be different. It’s never too late to begin to appreciate all the moments of our lives-the warm breezes, the sunny days and even the passing storms.